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mawwiage is what bwings us togetha today

Wedding_ringsHow many times can marriage be, in the immortal words of the priest in The Princess Bride, “that dweam wiffin a dweam”?

This question went through my head when doing some New England and Canadian research for a client recently. The ancestor of focus, Florence, married for the first time at age 19. Her husband was a 24-year-old watchman from England. Their marriage didn’t last, though, because he died shortly after they had their first child. The stoic young woman remarried by the time she was 21 years old, this time to a 35-year-old divorced carpenter. He, too, kicked the bucket rather rapidly after their marriage, and she was once again a widow at the tender age of 22! This third time she married a 42-year-old machine operator from New Hampshire. Having managed not to get himself killed or dying for 42 years, perhaps he was a better bet.  And he was – until he wasn’t.

I wondered what she was thinking as she set out to marry for the 4th time at age 46.  Perhaps marriage was an economic necessity – it was very much an economic arrangement as much as anything else until the last 80-100 years or so. Perhaps she was thinking of a male role-model for her now-adult son.  Or maybe she found love again.  Maybe, like those British historical dramas, her benefactor relatives threatened to cut her off.  If only the documentation for her life included a journal!

What life challenges and adventures framed your ancestors’ lives? Share what you know or call me to discover them!


2 comments on “mawwiage is what bwings us togetha today

  1. Brandy Heineman
    7 May 13

    My goodness. You don’t mention whether Florence lived in one community for all these marriages, but I can’t imagine the social stigma she would have faced. We have an aunt Minnie who married three times around beginning of the 20th century. We found the marriage license for the second, and on the line for the date of death of the first husband are the words “not dead.” Yeah, I wish we had a journal for Minnie… 🙂

    • KC Reid
      25 May 13

      As it happens, Florence did live in the same general area for all four. I have often wondered if her husbands knew each other. Perhaps, perhaps not. I haven’t researched her several husbands to learn more about their specific lives before her. But I may add that to my project list!

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